Have you ever seen a youth sports coach tell a young player to “suck it up,” or not to cry? We’ve all seen things like this. As adults, we’ve learned to cover up our feelings our entire lives. So it is no wonder that too often we end up hiding how we truly feel from our friends, families, partners, and even from ourselves. Hiding your feelings can be detrimental to your well-being, and it definitely is a habit to break out of. Let’s take a look at why.
Your Feelings Are Something You Should Embrace
Your feelings are telling you something. If you feel terrible about going to work everyday, perhaps you have the wrong job (or are working with the wrong types of people!). If you feel bad after hanging out with a certain group of people, maybe they shouldn’t be your friends. Conversely, if you try something new and you feel good about it, like a new sport, you should probably do it more. Your feelings are something that you should embrace, they shouldn’t be an afterthought.
If You Feel Bad About Something, Don’t Push Through It
How many times have you been told to “push through it” in life? Through a bad relationship, a bad job, or even a bad friendship? “Pushing through it” can be tremendously stressful, so much so that it actually takes a toll on your health. If you feel bad about a situation, start thinking about ways that you can change it. Perhaps you can talk to your boss if they are making you feel stressed. Or if things are too far gone, you could look for another job. If your relationship is too stressful, you can find another partner. Life is about reducing your stress and feeling happy, not trying to push yourself through difficult situations all the time.
Think About How You Can Improve Your Situation
So you’ve identified that a certain situation is stressing you out. Perhaps you’ve found that you aren’t in the right career for you. Now you have to think about how you can enact positive change. Does that mean going back to school? Will you be happy doing that? Or maybe all you need is a change of surroundings? You have to be mindful of how you go about changing your situation, the wrong move could leave you feeling more unhappy or uncomfortable than you are now. Make sure that you are making the right decision for your life, because it isn’t about impressing anybody else. It is about feeling comfortable and making the most of your happiness.
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Regina Fasold is a seasoned Executive Coach and Leadership Expert. Her extensive professional background and her 10+ years of experience as a Global Executive Coach have allowed her to assist over 300 senior executives in corporations throughout the United States and in over 25 countries around the world.