Negative situations are unavoidable in life. Perhaps you failed a test. Maybe your small business didn’t work out. Or maybe a relationship failed. Regardless, we are all familiar with the negative emotions that come from these types of circumstances. Hurt, anger, and even shame are common emotions after negative experiences. Fortunately, these negative experiences happen to everyone at one point or the other and they don’t define us. We get to decide what these moments mean to us. In fact, we can even use negative circumstances to our own advantage in order to create a new, positive outcome. You often see this when an entrepreneur’s business fails or is denied traditional funding, and through ingenuity and resourcefulness he still manages to become a success. You too can use negative emotions to power positive outcomes. Here’s how you can get started.
Negative Emotions Can Fuel Positive Outcomes
After a bad event occurs—like perhaps losing your job—the feelings can be overwhelming. It is important to understand those feelings in the moment and give them context. You are going to survive. You are going to thrive. This is only a momentary setback. Don’t get caught in the temptation to wallow in self-pity. Think about why the event occurred, learn the lessons that need to be learned, and move on. Use those feelings of anger and hurt as fuel for your success. If you lost your job, you have the power to find a new, better position. You can still move up the career ladder. Don’t let that negative experience hold you back from reaching your full potential. Instead, use it as motivation to become an even better version of yourself.
Adversity Can Give You A Different Perspective
Sometimes when things have been going pretty well, you don’t feel the need for growth. If you get comfortable in your job, or in a relationship, you might even stop striving to be the best you can be. Adversity changes that. It shakes things up and makes you uncomfortable. And being uncomfortable and forced to react to a new situation can give you a different perspective. You might be able to better understand the perspectives of others as well, which can make you more compassionate and empathetic as well.
You Can Become More Mindful In The Process
Mindfulness is the state of being aware of your thoughts, emotions, and surroundings. It is a key principle in meditation and helps people to feel calmer and more at ease regardless of the situation they are in. Having significant change in your life can bring you perspective and can also force you to become more aware of your feelings. You might realize that you didn’t really like that job that much anyway, or you might figure out that your relationship wasn’t something that you really needed to pursue long term. Mindfulness will help you to become better aware of what really is important to you in your life, and what you are willing to let go and do without.
Regina Fasold is a seasoned Executive Coach and Leadership Expert. Her extensive professional background and her 10+ years of experience as a Global Executive Coach have allowed her to assist over 300 senior executives in corporations throughout the United States and in over 25 countries around the world.